physical intimacy in islamic marriage

Kindness and love to the Bride Understanding physical intimacy in islamic marriage is an essential topic for Muslim couples seeking a healthy and blessed relationship. The husband should be extremely kind to his bride on their first night together, especially if she is a virgin. He should understand that this night marks the beginning of a totally new life for her. This may make her nervous and slow in cooperating with him. So, he should not brutally force himself on to her. If she does not appear to be fully ready on the first night, he should work on easing her emotions while waiting for the ultimate union between them one or more days later as might be necessary.  Allah’s Messenger ﷺ was very kind and gentle with ‘A’ishah (R.A.) on her first night with him. He ﷺ gave her some milk to drink, allowed her young girlfriends to remain with her for a while, and talked to them jokingly – so as to make her feel at ease. Asma’ Bint Yazid Bin as-Sakan  reported that she adorned ‘A’ishah for the Prophet ﷺ and then invited him in. He came and sat next to her. He was given a large cup of milk. He drank some of it and then gave it to ‘A’ishah who shyly lowered her head. Asma’ scolded her saying, “Do not reject Allah’s Messenger’s offer.” So she took the cup and drank some, and he then told her, “Give your friend.” Asma  said, “O Allah’s Messenger! First take it back and drink from it, then give it to me with your hand.” He took it, drank from it, and gave it to Asma’ who sat down and drank, making sure that her lips were on the spot where the Prophet drank . Then he pointed to some other women who were […]